father and daughter in this world and became a connection between them in the
afterlife.
As third base coach for the Pittsburgh Pirates
in 1992, I was at the top of the world.
Although it was only March, it was obvious we had a strong team and
could expect a winning season.
shattered. “Dad, I have something to
tell you,” my seventeen-year-old daughter, Amy, began. “Don’t be mad at me.”
possibilities crossed my mind: she
wrecked the car, drugs, pregnancy, bad grades, …… “What is it?” I asked, impatient for the bad
news.
No! I could not be hearing
right. Not a brain tumor. Not my Ames.
silence.
choked into the receiver.
herself.
grew up to be one tough kid. When she
was little, she loved to have me ask her: “Where do you want to go today?” Then, wherever she answered, I’d throw her
giggling across the room onto the bed followed by the inevitable plea of, “Do
it again, Daddy!”
strawberry blonde hair beat a heart of gold.
Often I came home to find our garage full of neighborhood children
playing school with Amy. She loved kids and dreamed of being a school teacher
one day.
that year. Her mother and I were divorced years earlier but Amy and her
brothers, Bubba, Mike and Tim, usually spent the summers with me. That year,
her illness and chemotherapy weakened her so much that she needed to stay home
in Arlington, Texas.
lot to her because it meant a lot to me. Even though she could not come to the
games, she decorated the house with orange and black pom poms, wore Pirate
t-shirts and watched the games on television.
We missed each other so much.
that year, Amy flew out to attend the fifth game of the playoffs with the
Atlanta Braves. It was not easy; her
body weakened from chemotherapy, her head bald, but she was still full of life
as she cheered enthusiastically. Winning
this game was the icing on the cake of having my number one fan there.
driving the car and asked, “Dad, when there’s a man at second and you get down
in your stance and cup your hands, what are you telling him? ‘Chicken runs at midnight?’”
road. “Chicken runs at midnight? Where did you come up with that?” I
asked.
where it came from. It just came
out.” It was total nonsense, but it was
totally Amy.
was unable to travel for the final game in the playoff series. But when I got to the stadium, someone handed
me a phone message from her. It read: “Dear Dad, Chicken runs at midnight. Love, Amy.”
Jose Lind, who spoke very little English, noticed me looking at it. “What’s that?” he asked.
chuckle.
field, he ran around telling all the players, “Chicken runs at midnight.
Chicken runs at midnight,” not knowing what he was saying. Soon, in the dugout the whole team was saying,
“Chicken runs at midnight. Let’s go, chicken runs at midnight.”
watching the game on television when they heard one of the players yell,
“Chicken runs at midnight!” They
screamed and howled with laughter.
family motto. We’d start and end phone
conversations with it. When a newspaper
photographer laughed about my funny stance in the team picture, I told him
about the “Chicken runs at midnight” phrase that had come from it. He sent me an enlarged photograph with those
five words boldly printed underneath.
their own. They meant absolutely
nothing, but to our family they came to mean everything. “Chicken runs at midnight” represented the
love, the bond, the sense of humor and the baseball we all shared. They also represented Amy, and we were losing
her fast.
dream to go to the World Series. The
loss hurt deeply. It was my last chance
to share that dream with Amy. Three
months later she lapsed into a coma.
I never wanted anything more in my life.
Through her illness, I had regained the faith of my youth. Although many teens drift from religion, I
was an oddity. Those were the years I
went to daily Mass, prayed novenas and rosaries and was even a pontifical
server, which meant I served for the Bishop.
baseball. By the time I was forty, I
was no longer misseing Mass but God was still not the center of my life. Then, at forty-six, when Amy got her brain
tumor, my world turned upside down and God ended up on top.
little girl. But I also found the faith
of my youth again. I knew that Amy would be in God’s care regardless. When it came time to say good bye, I walked
in the hospital room and held her. Tears
poured down my face as I hugged Amy close and thanked her. Her dream of becoming a teacher would never
come to pass but she had taught me so much.
Through Amy I learned about love and joy and courage–right up until the
very end. Although I could never really
be ready to say good bye to my Ames, I was ready to accept God’s will.
headstone: “Chicken runs at midnight.”
The lady at the funeral parlor initially tried to steer us in another
direction. Something a little more dignified, I suppose. But it had to be “Chicken runs at midnight.” To us, that phrase said it all. It kept us
connected to the best of Amy.
distraught to learn Fr. David Yetsko, newly transferred to the St. Maria
Goretti Church in Arlington, would be saying the Mass. He had never known Amy.
He had no idea how special she was. When we met for the first time to plan the
Mass, I was surprised to learn Fr. David was from Pittsburgh. I quickly
discovered he was a big Pirates fan, but rarely had the chance to go to any
games. He did manage to make it to one game the previous season, however. It
was the same one that Amy was at; the one where the “Chicken runs at midnight”
motto was born.
Fr. David held my hands and we wept together. It turned out that he was just
the right priest to say the Mass. His eulogy truly captured Amy’s beauty. He even managed to include “Chicken runs at
midnight” in it.
Marlins. We upset the Atlanta Braves in
six games to win the National League Championship. The dream I held since I was a little boy
then became a reality. We were going to
the World Series against the Cleveland Indians.
held our own. After six games, the series was tied. Tim, who had just graduated
from high school, was a bat boy at all six of the games. Then, for the last big
game, another son, Mike, was able to take time away from college football to
also put on a bat boy uniform.
face-off. In the ninth inning, the Marlins tied the score, sending the game
into extra innings. In the bottom of the eleventh, with two outs, we needed
just one run to win the game. Second
basemen, Craig Counsell, who my kids had nicknamed “Chicken Wing,” because he
held his elbow up high when he batted, was on third base.
pitch. It was a hit! Craig ran home and
scored the winning run. We won the World Series! The home team crowd of 67,000 fans went nuts; everyone
cheering madly and jumping wildly about.
the stadium clock. “Dad, look!” he screamed. “Chicken ran at midnight!”
It was Craig, “Chicken Man” who had
scored the winning run at midnight. My adrenaline surge disappeared as if I had
been zapped with a tranquilizer dart. The crowd disappeared. I was only aware of Mike and Tim as we held
each other and bawled.
me. But I knew, she was there. I could feel it. She was there with us.
Somehow, some way, that nonsensical phrase, “Chicken runs at midnight” had been
a prophecy that now connected us to her. Knowing that Amy would be with Him,
God provided us with a connection between our two worlds during that incredible
moment. The boys and I hugged and cried
and hugged and cried. No one else could
begin to understand what it all meant to the three of us.
around 3 a.m., I walked back to the locker room and got my brief case. Opening
it, I reached into a side pocket and pulled out the phone message I always
carried with me. “Dear Dad, Chicken runs at midnight. Love, Amy.”
the most experienced coaches in the Major Leagues. He currently serves as an
advisor for the Pittsburgh Pirates. He completed his 26th season as a
Major League coach in 2007 and his second with the Los Angeles Dodgers. To have him speak at your event, contact him through CMG Booking, (657) 777-2535.
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