Do you have more things to do than time to
do them? Really? No, not really. Would God give you more to do than time to do
it? Of course not. So if you feel that you can’t get it all done,
then maybe it’s not all yours to do. Or, you aren’t organizing yourself. The
question is, which is it?
do them? Really? No, not really. Would God give you more to do than time to do
it? Of course not. So if you feel that you can’t get it all done,
then maybe it’s not all yours to do. Or, you aren’t organizing yourself. The
question is, which is it?
Most moms like to get things
done. Whether we stay at home or work
out of the home, we tend to have more goals than time to accomplish them.
Several times during talks I’ve given on this topic, the light goes on for many
when I’ve stated that God would not give us more to do than we could get done.
It’s an important fact we often forget.
done. Whether we stay at home or work
out of the home, we tend to have more goals than time to accomplish them.
Several times during talks I’ve given on this topic, the light goes on for many
when I’ve stated that God would not give us more to do than we could get done.
It’s an important fact we often forget.
Once we realize this, the next stage
for women is to make peace with the 24-hour day. Don’t be tempted to beat yourself up: If I
can’t get everything done than I must be the problem. Sure, sometimes we are the problem. But
more often, just like a child whose eyes are bigger than his stomach, our goals
are more numerous than hours in a day.
for women is to make peace with the 24-hour day. Don’t be tempted to beat yourself up: If I
can’t get everything done than I must be the problem. Sure, sometimes we are the problem. But
more often, just like a child whose eyes are bigger than his stomach, our goals
are more numerous than hours in a day.
The Four C’s
I don’t always get everything done
that I would like, but I keep my head above water. As the mother of ten children and writer of books and articles, I spend time with my kids, keep the housework going (not always “done”) and put dinner on the table every night. By following my four C’s, I manage to pace myself.
that I would like, but I keep my head above water. As the mother of ten children and writer of books and articles, I spend time with my kids, keep the housework going (not always “done”) and put dinner on the table every night. By following my four C’s, I manage to pace myself.
Christ He is the one to whom I turn to navigate my day. “Ican do all things in Christ who strengthens me,” (Philippians 4:13). So I begin each day in prayer, usually swith Mass, and touch bases with him
throughout the day. The goal is not just how much I get done, but that I am
scheduling and working in union with God’s desire for me moment by moment.
Condense Look
for ways to do things quicker and easier. When making dinner, can you double it
and have leftover for lunch or another dinner?
Are there aspects to chores that are not necessary or could be done less
often?
for ways to do things quicker and easier. When making dinner, can you double it
and have leftover for lunch or another dinner?
Are there aspects to chores that are not necessary or could be done less
often?
If you have a compulsive nature and
vacuum rooms that don’t need it or dust more than once a week, try to do less
of the things that don’t matter by concentrating on the necessary tasks.. As you go about your day, look for shortcuts.
vacuum rooms that don’t need it or dust more than once a week, try to do less
of the things that don’t matter by concentrating on the necessary tasks.. As you go about your day, look for shortcuts.
Co-opt Can you and a friend trade childcare so that
you have a few uninterrupted hours to do some turbo cleaning or get big
projects done? I’ve heard of moms who
share meals, although I’ve never done it. One cooked dinners for both families for two
days and the other mom cooked dinners for both families on two other days; thus
freeing up time.
you have a few uninterrupted hours to do some turbo cleaning or get big
projects done? I’ve heard of moms who
share meals, although I’ve never done it. One cooked dinners for both families for two
days and the other mom cooked dinners for both families on two other days; thus
freeing up time.
There are tasks like dog walking—I
take your dog this week, you take mine next week—that lend itself to this. If your child has sports, music or some other
practice, look around for parents who live nearby who are willing to take turns
driving. Once you put your mind to
work, you will discover ways to co-opt with others.
take your dog this week, you take mine next week—that lend itself to this. If your child has sports, music or some other
practice, look around for parents who live nearby who are willing to take turns
driving. Once you put your mind to
work, you will discover ways to co-opt with others.
Even if it is not the same trade, it
can be an even trade: Help a relative with housework in place of them
babysitting for you.
can be an even trade: Help a relative with housework in place of them
babysitting for you.
Consider Are all
the tasks in your day meant for you?
There’s a lot of worthy volunteer work, but is it the work God is
calling you to at this point in your life?
Do you take on jobs at home that your children could and should be
doing? Make an assessment of your schedule.
Consider all the activities you have your children involved in. Are they
necessary? Is the benefit worth the
cost?
the tasks in your day meant for you?
There’s a lot of worthy volunteer work, but is it the work God is
calling you to at this point in your life?
Do you take on jobs at home that your children could and should be
doing? Make an assessment of your schedule.
Consider all the activities you have your children involved in. Are they
necessary? Is the benefit worth the
cost?
Years ago, my three oldest boys were
in soccer. My husband worked every other Saturday. On Jamboree Day one year, I was alone with
three young boys, a toddler and a baby. Each child played three games. It was
cold and snowy and my baby was still nursing.
At the end of the nine game jamboree—a day in purgatory for me—I asked
my boys if they cared if they did soccer next year. All three said they didn’t
care. I was knocking myself out for
something that didn’t even matter to them.
in soccer. My husband worked every other Saturday. On Jamboree Day one year, I was alone with
three young boys, a toddler and a baby. Each child played three games. It was
cold and snowy and my baby was still nursing.
At the end of the nine game jamboree—a day in purgatory for me—I asked
my boys if they cared if they did soccer next year. All three said they didn’t
care. I was knocking myself out for
something that didn’t even matter to them.
Many things do matter, I am simply
suggesting that you consider the whole
picture. Ask God to help you discern
which things are important and which are not.
Weigh the cost/benefit of this world as well as the next. We want to
equip our children to do well, but the temptation to invest too much in this
world and not enough in the spiritual aspects of life, often puts us out of
balance.
suggesting that you consider the whole
picture. Ask God to help you discern
which things are important and which are not.
Weigh the cost/benefit of this world as well as the next. We want to
equip our children to do well, but the temptation to invest too much in this
world and not enough in the spiritual aspects of life, often puts us out of
balance.
Live in the moment.
If you feel so busy that life is
burdensome, then something is out of balance. If your home and family have become irritations,
you are misplacing your priorities. Granted, life is not a picnic and we must
take the good with the bad, but if feeling overwhelmed is your “normal” then
you are not living in union with Christ’s desire for you.
burdensome, then something is out of balance. If your home and family have become irritations,
you are misplacing your priorities. Granted, life is not a picnic and we must
take the good with the bad, but if feeling overwhelmed is your “normal” then
you are not living in union with Christ’s desire for you.
Jesus said, “My peace I leave with you, my peace I
give,” (John 14:27) If stress is your middle name, take steps to
replace it with peace. I know of no better way than in prayer before the Lord,
to begin to alter your life course. Walking in union with Christ will lead to
peace.
give,” (John 14:27) If stress is your middle name, take steps to
replace it with peace. I know of no better way than in prayer before the Lord,
to begin to alter your life course. Walking in union with Christ will lead to
peace.
Sometimes we can’t see the forest for
the trees or see the years for the minutes.
Even if you feel like you are not doing all that much, it adds up. Life is
lived minute by minute. Organize your minutes, stay close to Christ and you
will live a life of value.
the trees or see the years for the minutes.
Even if you feel like you are not doing all that much, it adds up. Life is
lived minute by minute. Organize your minutes, stay close to Christ and you
will live a life of value.
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